That is the statistic that startles me most regardless of how many times I say it. I have been a wife and mum for half of my life, Wow! I remember my Mum saying the same thing when she was 38 so now it seems mad that I can say the same thing. I honestly don’t feel old enough!
The day itself was a simply one, I’ve never been one to make a fuss, a simple church service with an informal reception for our family and closest friends, it suited us perfectly.
There are many differing views on the ‘ideal’ age to get married but I believe that every couple is different and what works for one might not work for another. I don’t think age is the deciding factor on whether a marriage will work or not, it’s all down to your personality and your desire to work at it, whether you are inclined to give and take or if you throw in the towel at the first hurdle.
Hubbie and I are very alike in some things and complete opposites in others. We have identical standards and morals and enjoy the same things yet have some personality traits that are the complete opposite. Hubbie is a ‘fly by the seat of your pants’ type person he is very vocal and speaks his mind readily, I am more cautious and a planner, and while being opinionated I keep my mouth shut and my opinions to myself.
I would never offer advice on what makes a happy marriage but I will tell you what works for us. Teamwork. We approach everything as a team, we rarely do things on our own, unlike many couples who have individual friends and social lives and seem to spend too much time (IMHO) thinking only of themselves. We’ve always done things as a family and being a team is what gets us through life’s ups and downs.
So this week we are celebrating 20 years of being happily married. We’ve come a long way in that time, which poses the question what, will the next 20 years bring?